Empaths, Are you being gaslit?

By KIRAJE Voice

Have you ever had someone say, “I was just joking with you, why are you being so serious?” Or while discussing your valid feelings with a family member, they go off on a tangent about something you did? If you have, this is what we lovingly refer to as “gaslighting.” 

If you are an empath, you already feel things very deeply. You can sense when the air in the room changes, or when someone’s words do not match their energy. Furthermore, you can always sense when “something just feels off” about most people, places and situations. But this heightened sensitivity can also make you a target for gaslighting. Gaslighting is that deceptive and confusing tactic where someone twists reality to make you doubt yourself.

Now, I am not a psychologist. I am a fellow being who has experienced this and found proven methods to guide other empaths through this haze.

Below are a few simple and practical signs that someone may be gaslighting you.  It is not you.

1. The “That Never Happened” Move

You clearly remember an event or conversation, but the other person flat-out denies it. If this happens once, maybe it is forgetfulness. If it continues, this person is trying to ensure you question your sanity.  Do not fall for it, say something to them (if you feel safe to do so) and MOVE on. This is not the type of energy an empath needs in their life.

2. Shifting Blame Olympics

You bring up how their behavior hurt you, and they make it about you. Now, they are bringing up every previous infraction, all because you stood up for yourself. You are suddenly the problem, and this is considered classic gaslighting. It leaves you defending yourself instead of addressing what the actual issue.

3. Your Feelings Get Minimized

“Why are you so sensitive?” “You are overreacting.” If every emotion you express gets brushed off like lint on a jacket, that is not normal feedback.  It is someone being dismissive of your feelings.

Similarly, it does not matter how often you may feel emotional, you have a right to ‘feel your feels’ and express yourself. Anyone who values and respects you, will love you for this and know this is a part of the magic of who you are! You feel deeply so, you can HEAL others deeply! You are an impactful being.

4. You Start Second-Guessing Everything

Here is another red flag.  When you start constantly questioning your memory, your feelings, or even your worth, that may be gaslighting planting seeds of doubt in your mind.

Other Practical Methods

• Pause and Breathe: Check in with your body. Does your chest feel tight? Do you feel drained? Your body often catches on before your mind does.

• Write It Down: Journaling events or conversations helps you anchor to your truth. When you see the pattern on paper, it is harder to ignore.

• Phone a Friend: A trusted friend or community can be your mirror. They can remind n you that you are not imagining things.

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KIRAJE Voice Thoughts

Gaslighting is real, and it can be very disorienting.  However, you do not have to live in someone else’s warped version of reality. By protecting your energy, holding your ground, and standing up for yourself, you are sending a clear message: Your sensitivity is not a weakness, it is your compass to help you navigate through life.

You are Seen. You are Known. You are Loved.

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